I met with the transgender woman professor, super achiever, who transitioned after years of marriage and a son. They hung in, happy years later. she was so kind, informative, gave me resources, yet I left feeling depressed. Hard to identify. No wife, no grandchild, no son, new daughter, new life that could hold…anything. Maybe I’m learning too much about this stuff. So many very young people do this and it’s an easier transition, it seems, before puberty. Or after there’s a spouse (poor spouse). Here, nothing is known.